Here is a list I'm sure a lot of people are familiar with, as it was being passed around on the internet for the longest. It's called The Top Ten Reasons Why It’s Hard to Date a Black Woman.

Sometimes love can make a person bitter. Very bitter! So bitter that they can't imagine going through the pain again, so they resent the opposite sex and sometimes it goes extreme and they resent the whole race of that sex. For instance, Black men hating Black women.

Along with the list is an analysis of the list by a black man. Probably the manliest man I know. You know the kind of man that will pick something out of a toilet bowl for you. The kind of man that will pick up a frog, snake, cockroach..Hell, he just isn’t afraid of nothing. He watches scary movies in the dark to make it scarier. Shit that grosses you out will make him laugh - while he's touching it. He makes you feel like if a bullet was being shot at him it would be deflected by his sheer manliness alone. YEA! That kind of man!

So here's the list, with the analysis below.
              
The Top Ten Reasons Why It’s Hard to Date a Black Woman

1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.
9. Black women’s tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man’s struggle in white America.
10. Black women do not cater to their men.

This Is My Ten Based On His Analysis Of Above

1. Black women do NOT make us feel the way that he described. This comes from us and us alone. A Black man tends to be more aware and almost on the edge of paranoia about his placement within society and in the world, that he knows. It is human nature to feel victim to the events that happen in life. Mostly because in our minds and hearts we know that we are the main characters in our story of life and we want to be the hero. No one can make us feel those things if we choose not to allow them. The only thing that another can do is to try to establish the environment in which they exist. If this is, in fact, the truth…then once again his argument of blaming the black woman falls short.

2. Aggression is once again based on a person environment, drive, and perception…in other words…it’s an opinion. Our society has developed the feeling that time is always running out. The black woman did NOT create this. Different stresses have been applied to both genders in reference to this. A modern black woman has been driven into inner turmoil because of this. Her key challenges in life lay somewhere between her youthful introduction to men, sex, womanhood, relationship, marriage to independence, strength, lack of trust, sex as a tool, and age. It is no easier for her than the man.

3. There are ALWAYS challenges to relationships! This is a painful illusion that is fed throughout our community. A black woman is ULTIMATELY a woman! This should not EVER be forgotten. I have NEVER met a headstrong, independent black woman that has destroyed a relationship for those reasons alone. Those attributes, when combined with hurt, bitter, jealous, or resentful…then become the chemical compound that has the ability to challenge or destroy a relationship. If you take those SAME attributes and mix them with love, compassion, leadership (as a mother, sister, or daughter), or wife then the chemical compound you end up with adds pure power to the relationship.

4. This comes down to the choices of the man…period. EVERY person searches for certain qualities in their mate while attracting others. If you’re dating a butch, then leave her or shut the fuck up! Yes, some women are pushy and want to run the relationship…if you don’t like it, then be a man and stop it. If you can’t then your answer is pretty simple, in my book…shut the fuck up!

5. A black woman is supposed to expect more…PERIOD!! This is the same for a man, a parent, and a child!! Conflict and struggle create improvement in people. This is something to be embraced. A woman is taught to seek the man that can take care of her and a man is taught to seek a woman to take care of. It is the ones that take it to the extremes that paint the picture of ‘BAD’ for the others.

6. Not all black women are hot headed with attitudes. As for the ones that are…SO WHAT?!? If you have the patience, try engaging in a conversation to find out why. If she won’t allow it…fuck it and move on.

7. I guess this muthafucka hasn’t looked in the mirror! This shit is called…LIFE. I will spell it out for the slow…the main purpose of looking sexy is to attract a mate…PERIOD! After a relationship has started, you’re living together or married, and children are born and the light bill comes…and the mortgage is late…and the job is acting ‘funny’ and going to restaurants has been replaced with leftovers…a woman’s priorities change!! So does a man’s!! Yes, being healthy and in shape is important, but sexiness for a couple changes from everyday to holidays and times without kids.

8. I can’t even believe that this nigga is saying some shit like this! He must be gay!! Nigga, get control of yourself!! Talk to your woman, teach your woman, shave your dick…nigga, do something to change that or shut the fuck up!!! Hell, if you’re comparing her to your boyfriend, of course it’s going to seem like she’s not doing it enough!

9. The day you sit around wondering about the black woman being empathetic to your bullshit is the day you need to be drug outside and shot!! Why in the HELL are you expecting this kind of shit from a black woman or anybody?  Why would they give a shit about you and your struggles? We all struggle. We all hurt. We all succeed and we all have felt failure. A single woman seeking a strong man is attracted to one who has risen beyond this type of thinking. It is almost instinct for her to seek this because it adds power to the relationship and it sets the example for the children that she eventually wants to bear from a man of this caliber.

a. Empathy is NICE, but it is not…I say again…is NOT a requirement from anyone!! The black man has been the most hated creature in America since her birth as a nation. Unless you were born the day before the creation of America, you have no idea what it feels like to be loved completely by this nation. This means that you have grown up in a sea of misfortune, hate, bigotry, and racism. Now, tell me, honestly, if you know any difference? You don’t! I don’t need a black woman to be sensitive to my plight as a black man…I need to gather my strength to rise above it! Any black man that achieves this, will notice a different TYPE of black woman attracted to him and this WILL change his thinking about them as a whole, as well as about himself.

10. No, they don’t cater to us…hell, no one does. I don’t give a shit anymore. Can we talk about something I care about, now?